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Serendi-pilates

I love my pilates class. I have been going ever since I arrived in Bristol four and a half years ago.

Good for core strength and general well-being, it has become a firm staple in my weekly regime or ‘rhythm’ as a yoga friend pointed out to me. ‘Rhythm’ has more positive connotations! I absolutely agree – think music or heartbeat. There is something about the unenforced nature of ‘rhythm’ which makes it a more pleasant concept than ‘regime’. It is a constant, something that gently underpins and triggers a natural flow. There is something healthy and life affirming about the term ‘rhythm.’ So, yes, let’s go with that!

Anyway, suffice it to say, pilates is now an absolute essential to the balance and wellbeing in my life – physically and mentally. I have even invested in pilates balls, band and cushions lately so I can practise a bit at home. This really has been a very organic, unforced development, and underlines to me the power of sticking to something regularly … for a long period of time … to allow it to evolve naturally and in its own time. An ‘organic’ approach I guess. I think this is the longest I have gone regularly to a class, and it is without doubt the one I have gained most from. In so many ways.

Not only do I feel better for the regular practise and more and more confident about practising at home, I have also made some real connections with my fellow pilates classmates. Greeting people and chatting at the beginning of the class yesterday, I realised how central to my life this class now is. Not only is the familiarity of the other members of the class now a comfort to me, a really pleasant bunch of people, but so many good things have happened for me from our pilates connection.

Through this lovely class, I have been introduced to the Bristol Botanic Garden, helped to edit their magazine, been invited by a participant to the Bristol Arts Trail, enjoyed photographic collaborations here on our blog, broadened my social media connections, learned to give a  head massage, made some lovely French connections, resurrecting my French, and been given help talking through the option of going back into teaching again with two ex-teachers in the class.

The point of this post? Just to satisfy an urge to express my cheer at all this, to exemplify that stuff happens and life blossoms in ways and from places you might least expect … a celebration of serendipty! And also, to give a shout out to Joyce’s fab Walktall Pilates and fellow pilates goers :)

 

 

 

Education – some thoughts …

I found this in my notepad. It is from almost two years ago prompted from my experience of a brilliant parenting course run by the pre-school St Matthews Playgroup, Cotham, Bristol, my son attended then. Reading it now I am surprised by the passion I felt … Having recently been for a teaching interview which held a magnifying glass over the incredible pressures teachers are under in the school system today, what I wrote back then struck a chord … Here is what I said …

lovely depiction of free spirited children by Carolyn Eaton - https://www.flickr.com/people/carolyneaton/
lovely pic by Carolyn Eaton – https://www.flickr.com/people/carolyneaton/

A parenting course I have been attending has awoken a passion in me about what absolute total sense a holistic approach to education makes – instinctively.

Education is a subject that provokes passion in us all … because we care so much about our children’s happiness and ability to succeed in the world we have brought them into.

Feelings in the group ran high during a session I attended recently because we were made so aware of the need to allow children to develop naturally, according to their own individual pace: the need for them to be given the time, the space and the right facilitation and support to understand their emotions and learn to come up with their own solutions to the problems and difficulties life throws at them every day.

And the more we felt the huge importance for those intrinsic skills to be developed, the more we kept questioning the way our education system works. It seems to undermine those needs. It doesn’t appear to be driven by human needs, it feels like more often that not, politics and economics are the driving force for the changes in schools afoot today … ticking boxes, producing mountains of paperwork to prove ‘standards’, squeezing as many children as possible into a class, for as long as possible, getting all parents working i.e. separating children from their home for long periods of time, the place where the most important education should be going on; well, where the secure foundations are embedded from which a child is best disposed to learn.

It all feels very segmented, and seems to be feeding into the hands of Affluenza, that hard hitting book by Oliver James examining the way our skewed modern values based on material desires are affecting our wellbeing. Record levels of anxiety and depression are reported in the ‘have it all’ world we inhabit …

To any human, feeling person who holds a sensitive respect for our world and the people in it, from babies to oldies, surely a holistic, organic, patient and properly nurturing approach to education is the only way forward – the path to ‘quality’ and the best chance of capturing that elusive sense of ‘happiness’ or general contentment to which us humans all aspire.

Thank you to Sue for leading such an amazing course. It had a deep impact!

 

 

 

Romance in Bristol?

Asked to make recommendations for a pair of  young French lovebirds heading to Bristol, I initially drew a blank. Having only lived here as a married gal with children I haven’t really looked at Bristol from this vantage point.

So, it was fun to imagine it as a romantic destination for young love. And, of course, it turns out to have wonderful romantic possibilities …

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Patience and small steps …

I just want to get stuck in – get the whole job done!  But this is not possible. I am learning to be pleased rather than frustrated with the small spurts of progress I make around the house and garden during the small pockets of childfree time that punctuate my days. It will all add up to create the desired vision eventually … won’t it?! And my (best attempts at) patience will be rewarded …. won’t they?! And the children will flourish from all the attention I devote to their lives … won’t they?!

 

 

 

 

“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.” J.K.Rowling

My good friend Kate and I have been talking about starting a blog for over a year now and lots of things have gotten in the way, work, family, life in general! There is also a sense of trepidation of being vocal in the world of social media when you haven’t grown up tweeting etc on a daily basis. Reading the quote from J.K. Rowling about failure empowered me to just go for it, so what if no one reads it. The whole point of starting it was to give us a sense of achievement and use writing as a personal therapy broadcasting our thoughts and views. The big bonus is that the blog meetings Kate and I have are the best meetings ever, 40% therapy, 40% gossip and 20% work whats not to love – and doing something with a good friend – priceless!!